Friday, June 29, 2012

Another "Grey" Review

Just last week I wrapped up my first summer read. And although I hate to admit, it was my first book in a LONG time! For the past 5 years, I've only read textbooks. Yet, I managed to squeeze Harry Potter books (and audiobooks) in between.

I chose the utmost popular book of the last few months of course, "50 Shades of Grey". I tried not to read the reviews for the book and asked my friends to tell me as little about the book as possible. So here are my two cents...

The turn ons:
Oh my goodness, it was a hot read! When my quiet friend Ms. V said it was hot, she was right! "You don't need a man!" yup, that's what she said! It was definitely an easy read and easy to follow, but I have to admit I did have to look up certain words related to "the contract". This led to some interesting conversations with my special someone and my friends. I totally related to the main character, I guess, anytime a writer creates a klutz as the heroine, I tend to relate, ha!

The "Oh no she didn't":
I did roll my eyes at her name...several times. She really had a very, hmm, old school, victorian name. I guess its to relate to other readers. I'd rather have her not be "Anastasia", its such a royal-ish (is this even a word?), period name. Why did it have to be set in the same area as the Twilight saga? And maybe this is the part I felt uncomfortable with, she thinks too much, but I guess I do too!

Overall, pick it up if you haven't been inspired to read in awhile. It may even spice up your sex life...oh, yes I did!

Who do you think should be cast as Christian Grey for the movie? Can you guess my pick?

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Love, me ♥

I have discovered an amazing blog that has inspired me so much: "always carried away" by Mademoiselle Deva.

She writes about loving yourself and reminding yourself that you are your own best friend. Below is a quote that she included in one of her posts and that a very loving person has mentioned to me over and over for the last few weeks. 
I ultimately want to make peace with my very own best friend, ME.

 "You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. 
You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection."  

– Buddha 

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Time for a makeover

Not only does my little blog get a makeover, but apparently I'll be getting a mini makeover myself!

What do you think of the changes on the blog so far?

What would you like to read about?

What are some of your interests?

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

King of New York!

"Headlines don't sell papes, Newsies sell papes!" -Jack Kelly

So I guess the rumors are true!

Newsies, one of my all time favorite Disney movies, is now on Broadway! Newsies is at the Nederlander Theatre, same theatre as Rent so that's even more exciting!

This was also the movie that led to my addiction to Christian Bale. He is 'hands-down' my favorite actor...and a hottie nonetheless.

This really takes me my days using Prodigy to connect with other Newsies. Back then I was an internet addict as well! I think I was on it so much that my dad had to pay overage fees of over $200! eeek!

That was when I made pen pals, wrote short fiction stories, and linked up with friends on the old Internet Bulletin Boards anywhere from California, Indiana, New York, and Ohio! I wonder where they are all at now?!

I'm excited to sing the songs!


Newsies, 1992

Newsies on Broadway, 2012!

Monday, June 25, 2012

Some people come into our lives...

These are a few quotes that have gotten me through the last few weeks.

"Why compare yourself to others? 
No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you, than you!"

"In our time together, you claimed a special place in my heart. One I'll carry with me forever and that no one can ever replace." -Nicholas Sparks, Dear John

"We meet the people we're supposed to when the time is right." -Alyson Noel

"Maybe some friendships aren't meant to be saved. Maybe we're meant to spend a certain part of our lives with certain people, then move on." -Dawson's Creek

"In the end, you always go back to the people that were there for you in the beginning."  -Andie, Dawson's Creek

Living, loving, and learning...have faith

Dresses from Shabby Apple

You are Perfect...To Me

Made a wrong turn once or twice
Dug my way out, blood and fire
Bad decisions, that's alright
Welcome to my silly life

Mistreated, misplaced, misunderstood
Miss 'No way, it's all good'
It didn't slow me down.
Mistaken, always second guessing
Underestimated, look I'm still around

Pretty, pretty please, don't you ever, ever feel
Like you're less than fucking perfect
Pretty, pretty please, if you ever, ever feel
Like you're nothing, you're fucking perfect to me

You're so mean when you talk
About yourself. You were wrong.
Change the voices in your head
Make them like you instead.

So complicated,
Look happy, You'll make it!
Filled with so much hatred
Such a tired game
It's enough, I've done all I could think of
Chased down all my demons
I've seen you do the same

Pretty, pretty please, don't you ever, ever feel
Like you're less than fucking perfect
Pretty, pretty please, if you ever, ever feel
Like you're nothing, you're fucking perfect to me

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Learning to nurture myself

In the last few months, I feel that a hurricane has taken over my life. The intensity of my feelings in what I thought I had lost was extremely painful. Despite my attempts, catharsis was not taking place effectively. It was to a point that I needed to seek out and learn more about me. Sometimes, you need to experience pain and loss in order to realize what, if anything, is missing in your life. At least that was my case.

I learned that what I was seeking from others was basically something that I may have missed out in my early years. Not to say I am the only one that is lacking in this...I mean many people are better able to overcome and cope with this, but I still needed to feel nurtured. I needed to become a better mother to myself.

Don't get me wrong, I love my mom to pieces, however, I definitely do not have the relationship with my mom that is seen in the movies, the one my friends had with their mothers, or at least the one that I longed for. As I try to understand her, I can only see how my grandmother may have been overly nurturing to her and how this may have strayed her away; and how young my mother was when she had me. I often thought, it was my fault I didn't have this relationship and I didn't deserve to have these feelings.

Part of learning about me was also identifying with one of Karen Horney's (pronounced "horn-eye") theories. A theory based on how children perceived the actions of their parents. What I found, is that I am that little girl that seeks perfection and acceptance from others. I have the need to please others and be liked by them. Unfortunately, this theory falls true to me, and led me through the darkest path in my life.

As the good student that I am, I did my research to seek out my own happiness. What I am realizing is that I am an adult now and nothing can change my past; however, I am the owner of my actions and my thoughts. Therefore, I am the only one that can change and shape my future.  I landed on a few good articles on the 'tyranny of the shoulds', loving yourself, and on forgiveness.

Thus far, I feel that Tama J. Kieves' article on "How to Nurture Yourself & Be Your Own Mother" hit home with me. It wasn't a list on how to nurture me; I mean, I already have ideas like writing a journal, going to the gym, calling a good friend. Nope, this article shed a shining light. What I have to do is be my own mother! What would I want to tell myself when I feel down? How can I be good to myself?

Positive self-talk has never been at the top of my list. For the most part, I surrender to the negative feelings and the obsessive thoughts that clouded my thinking. As my own mother, I would hug myself and tell myself 'I am beautiful', 'they don't deserve your tears', 'you have done an amazing job!' Loving yourself unconditionally must be number one in your list. Don't be so judgmental of yourself; rather, you have to be your own cheerleader! Yes, it is difficult in the beginning. I too dwelled on the negative, but at one point or another you have to change that. You have the choice of being sad, being angry, and being happy. I say chose the latter and be your own voice of support. Be that one that nurtures you and accepts you for who you are unconditionally. You are who you were meant to be, so embrace yourself and forgive your mistakes.

Nurture yourself. Make it your responsibility. Treat yourself intentionally, buy yourself a small gift or a token of gratitude and support. Thank people around your for their kindness and their good thoughts. Remember, the world is full of good mothers, fathers, and lovers; including you!

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Through someone else's eyes

"We can never judge the lives of others because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path."
-Paulo Coelho

You can't really judge the lives of others because of the simple handicap that each person knows only about his/her own experiences; to judge the lives of others means to assume that you understand/know all the trials and hardships and all things it is that have led that person up to that point.

Our own perspectives are biased. As much as we may try, our perspectives are defined and are affected by our own trials and all that it is that we have endured; therefore, when we see others, it is through our eyes that have already been accustomed to certain things in our own life.

Many of us have the tendency to think that our own way of doing things is right. Many of us assume that our lives are right and lived by just means and in the right way; however, to assume that it is the only right path is an entirely a different matter.

A path to learn in all this is the acceptance of others and the acceptance of one's self.

Monday, June 11, 2012


"Forgiving someone for what they have done does not mean that you are saying what they did was okay. Forgiveness is more about YOU than it is about the other person. When you forgive someone, you are giving yourself permission to release the past and move on with your life. If all or most of your energy is wrapped up in being angry at someone who hurt you, where is the energy for creating a life you love?"

Start by forgiving yourself...


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